Comments on: The Trouble With Bromance http://mjs.cc/2010/01/02/the-trouble-with-bromance/ ramblings & shenanigans Wed, 01 Sep 2010 13:35:18 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: MJS http://mjs.cc/2010/01/02/the-trouble-with-bromance/comment-page-1/#comment-56 MJS Mon, 04 Jan 2010 14:36:11 +0000 http://mjs.cc/?p=493#comment-56 Absolutely. I agree with you. I don't think telling another guy you love them is unnecessary by default, although my rant may have carried that message. I think my problem is simply with the notion that a friendship between two guys in which these sentiments are not verbalized is somehow inhibited and "less than it could be." I think there are friendships in which those words aren't verbalized because they are communicated in other ways quite sufficiently, and then there are friendships in which they aren't verbalized, yet ought to be. To be honest, I'm not sure why I feel so strongly about this. I guess all it takes is one hint of misandry - if only in my own mind - for me to be ready to fly off the handle. Absolutely. I agree with you. I don’t think telling another guy you love them is unnecessary by default, although my rant may have carried that message. I think my problem is simply with the notion that a friendship between two guys in which these sentiments are not verbalized is somehow inhibited and “less than it could be.” I think there are friendships in which those words aren’t verbalized because they are communicated in other ways quite sufficiently, and then there are friendships in which they aren’t verbalized, yet ought to be.

To be honest, I’m not sure why I feel so strongly about this. I guess all it takes is one hint of misandry – if only in my own mind – for me to be ready to fly off the handle.

]]> By: Patrick http://mjs.cc/2010/01/02/the-trouble-with-bromance/comment-page-1/#comment-55 Patrick Mon, 04 Jan 2010 03:14:11 +0000 http://mjs.cc/?p=493#comment-55 You know, Mika, I agree with you for the most part. There's so much fear in our society about men expressing anything in the way of true feelings, and it's a load of bull. But I think of my two best friends...we've cried together, we've hugged each other, and we've said, "Love you, bro" more times than I can count. I exchange such a sentiment with one of the two most times we talk. Sometimes we even say it after an array of text messages. The other one doesn't say it back, most of the time, but I know the feeling's there. So why say it if it's so unnecessary? For me, it's exactly BECAUSE that's such a "problem" for so many others. These are men who are brothers to me in every sense of the word other than shared DNA. I tell my mom and dad that I love them. If I had a sister, I'd tell her. Since I've got these guys in my life who are brothers to me, I don't worry about telling them, even though they already know it. You know, Mika, I agree with you for the most part. There’s so much fear in our society about men expressing anything in the way of true feelings, and it’s a load of bull.

But I think of my two best friends…we’ve cried together, we’ve hugged each other, and we’ve said, “Love you, bro” more times than I can count. I exchange such a sentiment with one of the two most times we talk. Sometimes we even say it after an array of text messages. The other one doesn’t say it back, most of the time, but I know the feeling’s there.

So why say it if it’s so unnecessary? For me, it’s exactly BECAUSE that’s such a “problem” for so many others.

These are men who are brothers to me in every sense of the word other than shared DNA. I tell my mom and dad that I love them. If I had a sister, I’d tell her. Since I’ve got these guys in my life who are brothers to me, I don’t worry about telling them, even though they already know it.

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